Sarah Trachtenberg

Is Singapore Becoming More Open Minded About Dating?


It was under my impression that Singapore used to be a really conservative country when it came to dating. For instance, things like sugar babies or escorts were socially unacceptable just a short while ago. However, since the last few years, that seems to have drastically changed. In fact, even escort agencies and sugar baby websites have gone mainstream, and being featured on mainstream media in Singapore! While this is not a big deal in Western countries, it certainly is in Singapore! For instance, a media featured popular Singapore escort agency even has an article here teaching how customers can book escorts in Singapore. I found that pretty interesting, and so I decide to talk about the changes in dating in Singapore.

Perhaps it is due to the Internet being extremely prevalent throughout Singapore, and hence its citizens have access to more liberal dating lifestyles online when they use social media and are thus becoming open to such forms of dating? Or perhaps it was always prevalent in Singapore, but only appeared as if it was the case recently because such information is broadcasted online easily now? I believe it is a combination of both.

In the past, before the world of websites and Internet came about in Singapore , portfolios for escorts in Singapore and more could only be seen by male clients if you visited an escort agency’s physical office to look at their models or girls. However in this day and age in Singapore, a quick look online will yield tons of these escort websites, and their girls’ photos showing online. Something different from such escort sites in the West is that the face images are still partially censored for Singaporean escorts.

In the past, you needed to somehow look for your own sugar daddy or sugar baby, however, there are so many platforms out there online today like Seeking or Sugar Book which functions almost exactly like traditional online dating platforms and sites such as OkCupid and more. If you tried signing up though, most of the men do not provide their photographs, and some women do not show their faces or real pictures too. So that is probably still the element of conservatism left.

Dating Tips for Singles in Singapore You Cannot Ignore!

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Dating is not exactly the easiest kind of thing to do in Singapore, both for locals and for expats.

Singles listen up! Here are some dating tips for Singapore

Here are some dating tips for singles in Singapore that you absolutely have to know if you want to see any kind of success – especially if you are a new expatriate to Singapore! I will share some nuances of the local culture which I have figured out!

Both men and women lead very fast paced and busy lifestyles in Singapore

In fact, the people in Singapore are so career and work obsessed for the successful men, that many of these local guys who are rich and successful actually use social escorts instead, according to¬†Richard of SG VIP Escorts‘ interview in Yahoo as well as AsiaOne and more.

This is also the case for women, and that is why Singaporeans are getting married later as well, and the average age of Singaporean women getting married has been rising steadily over the decades.

This means that if one does not necessarily reply you or your texts immediately, this does not automatically meant that he or she is ghosting you. In fact, it could just very well mean that he or she is simply too busy working, or even working over time! This is something that you have to understand if you want to date well in Singapore.

People are less responsive to direct dating pick up approach on the streets

Even if you are incredibly sexy and hot as a lady, or incredibly suave and smooth as a guy, you may not see the same level of success, relatively to yourself, in pick up game as compared to other countries. This is because Singaporeans on the whole are generally more conservative to being approached randomly on the streets. Therefore, even if a person appears cold on the streets to your approach, that may not even have anything to do with your dating approach at all! So with that in mind, and a thicker skin, you could see some success as you push on further. Or, you could go for the next option and dating tip for singles in Singapore!

Try to find your special someone in social organizations in Singapore

This is a big dating tip for singles. People in Singapore are very open to dating and interacting with people from their so-called ‘social organizations’. This could be in the form of religious gatherings such as church groups, or could be in the form of a local country club or perhaps even just random friend groups! This is almost like a cheat code for singles looking to date successfully in Singapore.

Why Some Singaporean Girls Be Escorts Or Sugar Babies

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I have noticed a trend among Singaporean girls, and them becoming escorts or sugar babies. But upon deeper look, I realized that they are not necessarily one because of the same reasons as people in Western countries do. I will explain myself.

Just for clarification, when I am referring to escorts in Singapore, I am referring to legit social escort sites such SGVIP Escorts Services, and not illegal or underground stuff like SGLala, SBF, TTVIP and more, since most of those underground sites are now blocked, this is a great read on TTVIP which explains about it. And, when I am talking about sugar dating, I am referring to those on legit sites such as Seeking Arrangement or The Sugar Book.

Common reasons girls from Singapore or foreigners become escorts or sugar babies

I will first touch on the common reasons.

For the money

Every girl does it for the money. Whether or not there are other applicable reasons for each individual woman working, money is definitely one of the reasons. This is pretty common sense, really, so let us move on to the next point.

It allows one to potentially make a full time or near full time income while working flexible hours

Many women who are social escorts or sugar babies are actually college or university students, or working a day job. They do this for supplemental income. Since their schedule may be busy or constantly changing, they may not necessarily be able to commit to any other kind of part time income – at least not any with the same kind of monetary benefits they can get working as this instead.

Unique reasons that only applies to Singaporean girls

Here are some of the reasons that local Singaporean ladies become an escort girl or a sugar baby, which rarely, if ever, applies to girls from Western countries.

Helping family members out of difficult financial situations

This is something that is shockingly common. In the Western world, children are left to fend for themselves after they have become adults, and parents do not ask their children to take care of them. This is far from it in Singapore in many households, albeit not all. Many children, both male and female, stay with their parents unless they are married. And parents even shockingly expect their children to be their retirement or financial back up plan – yes you read that right. Most average Singaporeans do not even plan for their retirement, or fail utterly at achieving anything close to being able to allow themselves to retire, ever. They simply hope and drag their children to take care of them.

As a result of this, some women in Singapore are unfortunate enough to be one of these families, and if they are unlucky, their parents may even have hefty medical bills, which nobody in their family can afford to pay. As a result, many of these women turn to escort or sugar baby work to pay off.

Some SG girls do it purely for fun and the thrill

Being an escort or a sugar baby is not much of a deal at all in the States, and many European countries too. Many of them are pretty open about it, and candid. Therefore, there is pretty much nothing thrilling about doing it in for example, in the USA. However, it is considered very taboo across Asia, particularly in Singapore.

As a result of that, some Singaporean girls actually seek excitement and thrill of doing something legal, but taboo, and make money while at it. That is a reason that some SG girls join the industry.

Finding Love In Singapore – Dating For Expats In SG

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In this blog, I will share with you my unique dating challenges as an atheist, American born, Chinese ethnicity girl living in Singapore.

Social Development Network initiative

Because of Singapore’s relatively low birth rate as well as more and more couples getting more academically educated and marrying later in Singapore, the local government instituted this government office known as the Social Development Unit SDU, which was then rebranded Social Development Network SDN to deal with this problem. (Though SDN website will be officially closed down after 15 November 2023.)

Although from what I have realized, some locals feel embarrassed when surveyed whether they will join such an organization to look for a potential boyfriend or girlfriend.

This is a potential option, though it is for locals only, and non citizens would be unlikely to benefit from such a dating initiative.

Dating agencies in Singapore

There do exists different types of dating agencies locally.

Some of them specialize in speed dating, which is group events.

There are also some agencies in Singapore which are one to one matchmaking agency Singapore. These are usually for the extremely serious clients, who are not only looking to date, but also to marry.

Since I am not that serious about settling down yet, this is not an opti0n for me.

Escort agencies or sugar dating in Singapore

Well, I did not think about this initially, but some of my readers have private messaged me asking about whether these are prevalent in Singapore, because Singapore is clearly a more culturally conservative country than Western countries where this is really common.

I have to say that while I personally do not directly know any one in the expat scene who are either doing social escort work or sugar dating, I do know of friend’s friends who are doing it.

I think escort girls are more for male expats to meet casually, so those really are only applicable for male expats in Singapore. However when it comes to sugar dating, there are some expats who are being sugar babies in Singapore – after all, SG is known to have lots of wealthy locals and foreigners.

Unique issues expats may be facing

This goes out to the fellow expats looking to date in Singapore, but are also like me and are Asian but not in SG

While I am Chinese in ethnicity and living in Singapore now, my parents are from America, and hence my upbringing was probably always going to be a little different from the local Singaporeans. As a result of that, despite my looks, I find that I am able to connect much better with fellow expats. This can result in a unique issue for me, which is that using traditional, local Singapore-based dating applications or websites can be a tough match for me.

Additionally, I am also atheist, and I find that most people in SG have some kind of religion, whether that be catholic, christian, buddhist, or whatnot, it can be a little difficult for me to truly connect with the local dating scene when it comes to potentially sensitive topics like this. It can be quite difficult for me raising the topic that I am an atheist in Singapore in the relationship arena, without being secretly judged negatively. At least, so far that has been my experience.

Mobile dating applications in Singapore

These thankfully exist, and most of them hail from the Western parts of the world, such as Okcupid, Tinder and Coffee Meets Bagel. However, with applications such as Tinder, you will meet the same issues as you will anywhere else around the world as a woman, and that is a lot of thirsty men or rather, too many unqualified men approaching and sliding into your DM!